Muara Kasih Single Mother
Psychological Child

Presumably a night stroll in the Square gives its own story for Ervita and Mei. Remembering their memories in childhood. In the past, when the Sekatenan (a series of activities to commemorate the birth of Prophet Muhammad SAW), in Solo and Jogja there were often heirloom kirab preceded by a procession of Kerbau Bule, Karaubu, after that there is a night market in the Square. Now, presumably both of them repeat the memory when his parents used to take him for a walk to Alun-Alun every time Sekatenan arrived.

“So inget when I was a child yes Mbak .. first if Sekaten, Father and Mother often take us for a walk,” said Mei by observing a crowd of people who seemed happy with her family or her partner.

“Iya yes, used to travel to Sekaten and buy Harum Manis alone is very cool,” reply Ervita.

They are from a simple family, not so. So just go for a walk and buy Harum Manis alone is so happy. At that time the food that can be purchased in Sekaten such as Sweet Fragrance and Corn Flocked tastes so luxurious.

Pandu and Tanto also listened to what the two kayaks spoke. In Pandu's heart, it is clearly seen that the childhood memory they are remembering together. A beautiful memory, of course.

“Still remember not Mbak, first if Sekaten it we often ride the Bus from Balaikota to go home?” ask Mei.

“Iya still remember dong ... from home must go a long way first to ride the City Bus. If you do not ride the bus level and sit on top of it is very happy well,” Ervita recalled with a laugh.

In the past, it felt like all the happiness they could feel was actually coming from things that were simple and economically valuable. Just take the city bus, the children are happy, buy Sweet Fragrance and Corn Flocked are also happy, or just buy Ice Puter. However, now when humans are increasingly consumptive, it feels that happiness is precisely measured by matter.

“In Jogja there is Sekaten not Mas Pandu? Mbak Ervi is a hobby of traveling to Sekaten loh,” said Mei to her Sister-in-law.

“Ada .. later if there is Sekatenan, I take it there. Or a night stroll in Malioboro aja, Nda,” Take a Guide to His Wife.

“Mau Mas .. want,” reply.

“Ikutlah Mas .. exciting looks like a night stroll in Malioboro,” said May.

“By, just play to the house. Tan, play home ... nginep there,” Reply Pandu by patting his sister-in-law's shoulder.

“Ya Mas .. if the holidays can be there Saturday-Sunday, because Monday has to work again,” reply Tanto.

“Dunggu yah .. occasionally play to Jogja. Later we take a night walk in Malioboro while drinking Ginger Clap,” reply Pandu.

“Siap Mas .. later me and May to there,” reply Tanto.

For more than an hour they enjoyed the night crowd in the Square, until finally they chose to return home to the parents because Indi was sleepy. In the car, apparently Ervita and Mei were still chatting lightly.

“Poor yes Mbak .. so spend your childhood first, happy deh it feels,” reply May.

“Yes, equally ... did not expect well, we used to be small, now it is old. Time goes by so fast,” says Ervita.

The guide who was driving the car also slowly denied it, “You are still young, Nda .. I am old, already want a head of three,” reply.

Hearing what Pandu said, those in the car laughed. However, Indira actually said there.

Praised by Indira, making Pandu smile, one hand outstretched and rubbed the top of Indira's head there, “Thank her daughter Father,” he said.

“Cama-ama ... Her father Didi,” Reply Indira.

“Since long ago when calling Mas Pandu, Indi used to call him Dad huh Mbak?” ask Mei.

“Former call him Om anyway, O Om,” reply Ervita.

“Then, how can Dad be?” mei asked still curiously.

“Then, when Sister-in-law vacation to Jogja, there was Lintang, our nephew who called Papa, continued Indi was crying. Yes, it's changed to call him Dad Om, but only a moment after that call him Yaah,” Ervita's story.

Mei who was listening to him nodded her head, and did not expect that the young Indira could already see that there were other children around him had Papa, while she did not. Maybe at that encouragement too, Indira became calling Pandu by the name of Father.

“Mas Pandu love Indi?” ask Tanto suddenly.

Pandu who was driving the car was slowly nodding his head, “Honey is really .. loving Ervi means also having to love Indi. Both are the same for me. I love the Mother, and dear her son,” Pandu reply.

Hearing Pandu's reply, Tanto and Mei both nodded their heads, “Lemarkable, Mas .. usually the young people just want to be with their mothers, do not want to be with their children. Because, most consider the child is not the blood of his flesh and also only want to make love with his mother. So many Mas, on social media because they feel the child is not the blood of his flesh is persecuted, crying is not helped,” May's story at length.

There is indeed a video that has come out on social media, a stepfather who does not love his stepson. When the child cries, it is not helped, but is persecuted, whether it is beaten, or badly spelled. Therefore, Mei and Tanto are very grateful because Pandu is very affectionate with Indira. The sincerity of affection is also seen from the interaction of Pandu and Indira during this time. No pretenses there.

“Always love Indi ya Mas .. even though later Ms. Ervi is pregnant and has a child of the two of you, do not decrease unfortunately yes Mas,” reply May.

“Iya, it will be more affectionate with Indi,” reply Pandu.

Mei nodded her head, “What is not Mas .. The child who felt rejected from childhood can feel trauma in his heart. Indi since childhood only felt his father was Mas Pandu only, so do not let when he grew up there will be trauma from the events he experienced. The psychological condition of the baby is also determined since he was in the womb,” reply May.

Yes, the psychological condition of the baby is affected since they are in the womb of the mother. If his presence is rejected, the feeling of discomfort due to rejection of the closest person (parent) will be connected to the baby's brain so that the baby who is still in the womb knows that his presence is rejected. At birth, the baby will grow into an inferior individual, not confident, feel inferior and unexpected, and have emotional constraints.

In fact, the child can be a sensitive figure when he is touched by others or has difficulty socializing because he feels hurt and feels wrong to have been present in this world. Therefore, as often as possible do not refuse the presence of a baby.

“Iya May .. safe, you and Tanto witness, if later me and Ervi trusted God to have another child, surely I still love Indi, will never change. I will not differentiate Indi with her sisters later,” Pandu reply.

“Ya Mas Pandu ... matur nuwun has always accompanied Mbakku, when Mbakku is isolated in Jogja and in poor condition. Thank you for taking care of me until now. Matur nuwun, Mas,” reply Mei who this time thanked him sincerely.

Mei is fully aware, without Pandu figure what happened to her Brother, no one knows. However, because there is a Pandu, Ervita was increasingly strengthened. There are people who take care of him and love him. There are people who love their children and give affection to a father who always takes care of them. For all that Mei was very grateful to her Brother-in-law.