Patience Love Mr. Ustadz
200. ENLIGHTENMENTS

Today, Mansur and Risma held a mitoni event at his home. Mitoni is a tradition of thanksgiving or slamatan seven-month-old pregnancy in Javanese society. Sometimes the Javanese people call it the Tingkepan event.

In the event of Risma's pregnancy mitoni, there was a lecture from Mansur's friends. Mansur's friend who will fill the lecture at the mitoni event is Umar. Mansur wanted Umar to fill out a lecture on his show because Mansur believed and believed Umar could hone his potential talent in preaching. During college, Mansur also often exchanged information and knowledge about Islamic education.

Today's lecture Umar raises the theme of "Pardon Wrong and Bury Revenge". In his talk Umar said.

Forgiveness is a noble practice when a person experiences the disorder that people inflict on him and forgive the mistakes of people when he is able to repay them. The disturbance takes many forms. The disorder can be in the form of slurs, blows, deprivation of rights, and for example. It is indeed a reasonableness when someone demands his rights and retaliates against the person who hurt him. A person is allowed to repay the ugliness of others with such. However, it would be noble and good if he forgave him.

Forgiving the mistakes of others is often labeled and considered a weak attitude and form of humiliation, but it is quite the opposite. When a person retaliates against a crime committed against him, in the eyes of man there is no priority. But when he forgives and is able to repay, he is glorious before God and man.

There is some glory in forgiving mistakes

1. Gaining love

In the Quran Allah says

“And it is not the same as good and evil. Reject (the crime) in a better way, then suddenly the person between you and between him there is hostility as if he has become a very loyal friend. And those good qualities are not bestowed except upon those who are patient and are not bestowed except upon those who have great advantage.” (QS. Fushshilat: 34—35)

Ibn Kathir rahimahullah explained,

“When you do good to the one who does bad to you, this kindness will lead the one who did evil to you, to love you, and to lean on you. Thus, he (finally) became your close friend."

2. Get a defense from God

Al Imam Muslim rahimahullah narrated the hadith Abu Hurairah radhiallahu anhu that there was a man saying,

“O Prophet, I have relatives. I tried to connect them, but they broke off the relationship with me. I did good to them, but they did bad. I was patient with them, but they were foolish with me.”

Rasulullah shallallahu alaihi wa sallam bersabda,

“If it's true what you said, it's as if you're spreading hot ash to them. You will always have a helper from Allah azza wa jalla over them as long as you are above it.” (CHR. Muslim)

3. To obtain forgiveness from Allah

In the Quran Allah says :

“And if ye forgive and do not scold and forgive (them), verily Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (QS. at-Taghabun: 14)

4. Glory be to God and to man

It is well known that the one who forgives the faults of others, in addition to his high position in the sight of God, is also glorious in the eyes of men. Similarly, he will get a defense from others over his opponent. Not a few enemies turned into friends.

Nabi shallallahu alaihi wa sallam,

“Sedekah (in fact) does not reduce the treasure. Allah does not add a servant for forgiveness except glory, and no one is humble (tawadhu) because of Allah except as appointed by Allah.” (CHR. Muslims from Abu Hurairah radhiallahu anhu).

Forgiveness is said to be commendable when it arises from good consequences. Because there is forgiveness that does not result in improvement. For example, there is a person who is notoriously evil and likes to make damage. For example, he did evil to you. If you forgive, he will continue to be above his crimes. Under these circumstances, the main one does not forgive him and instead punishes him according to his crimes. Thus, there will appear goodness, namely deterrent effect.

Shaykhul Islam Ibn Taymiyyah rahimahullah asserted,

“Doing repairs is mandatory, whereas forgiving is sunnah. If forgiveness results in the loss of repairs, it means that it prioritizes the sunnah over the obligatory. Of course, this shari'a does not come with something like this.” (See Makarimul Akhlaq by Sheikh Ibn Utsaimin p. 20)

Hearing the lecture from Umar, Yossy and Melisa who were present at the pregnancy mitoni Risma felt that Umar's lecture was related to his life. Melisa hopes Yossy will get enlightenment after attending the event of Risma's pregnancy mitoni. At that time Yossy who was very curious about the law of a Muslim broke family relations because his family did maksiat. Without hesitation Yossy asked Umar.

"Mas Umar, how does the law of a person break the family relationship that is acting? Should we forgive him" asked Yossy

"One practice that is highly recommended for Muslims is to establish friendship. This practice brings many benefits. Silaturahmi is a means of strengthening the ties of the Islamic Ukhuwah. In addition, establishing friendship can be a smooth path of sustenance." replied Umar

"The task of a Muslim is to connect friends and make friends with anyone. If it is already established, the next task is to treat and strengthen it. It is forbidden for a Muslim to break the law for any reason. Especially the relationship with family and close relatives." continued Umar

"Such a disconnection of the blood is generally triggered by high emotional turmoil, out of control, and egocentrism. .

Islam strictly forbids such attitudes. Al-Qur’an, Sunnah, and the scholars agree on the importance of the family rope and judge the denial of it as a sin" said Umar

Indirectly Yossy felt cornered. The answer from Umar slapped hard in principle to break the relationship with his imprisoned family. Yossy was still not satisfied and finally asked Umar

"But Mas Umar, how do we address the families who have done wrong if we do not break the family relationship?" ask Yossy

In the Quran Allah says

"Would it be that if you were in power you would cause damage to the earth and break family ties? These are the people whom Allah has cursed and He has cut off their ears and blinded their eyes. (QS Muhammad: 22-23)"

"In the fatwa of Darul Ifta' Egypt, relatives must still be woven, but must not follow their bad habits. In order not to be affected, limit the length of the visit to the place of the relative. Meeting for a while is enough to keep the friendship. But if we can take care of ourselves, the best way is to get them to quit bad habits." replied Umar

Feeling full with the lecture from Umar finally Yossy got enlightenment and already understood no longer asking with Umar.

"Yes Umar, thank you" said Yossy as he scratched his hair that did not itch

Melisa who looked at Yossy from the female line smiled a smile at Yossy's behavior. Melisa prayed that the lecture from Umar would make Yossy want to visit her family who are languishing in prison.

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