A SOUL FROM THE SKY
CHAPTER 41. Requesting Abi Permit

After taking a morning shower for the second time, Nissa and Tama prepared to go home.

Tama had ordered a stel of clothes for her, and of course a robe and hijab for Nissa.

Of course they also can not linger in the place, considering Abi and ummi certainly must also be worried, it is because they still live together.

The journey home will be passed long enough, because last night Tama was looking for a rather quiet area for both stopover.

It takes about 45 minutes to get to the boarding school but it doesn't matter.

"Dear"

Tama looked a little annoyed looking at the wife.

Nissa also seems to feel a little confused by Tama's sudden change of behavior and looks anxious.

"Why did you ?"

Tama paused her speech before she actually said this.

"How about today we move into my house" Tawar Tama said

Tama spoke very carefully, not pushyly and just made an offer for Nissa to think about.

As an adult man Tama understands very well if it is possible that Nissa needs preparation to move from her parents' house, preparing the heart for example.

And Tama didn't force Nissa to just accept.

Nissa seemed to be thinking, in her daydream.

"Yes, shouldn't it be like that"

In the daydream Nissa recalled the advice of the Abi.

Among the virtues of an obedient wife to a husband is to be guaranteed to enter heaven. This shows the great obligation of the wife to the husband is to obey his orders.

From Umm Salamah radhiyallahu ‘anha, he said that Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said,

أَيُّمَا امْرَأَةٍ مَاتَتْ وَزَوْجُهَا عَنْهَا رَاضٍ دَخَلَتِ الْجَنَّةَ

“Whichever woman dies and her husband is happy with her, she will go to heaven.” (CHR. Tirmidhi no. 1161 and Ibn Majah. 1854. Abu Isa Tirmidhi says that this hadith is hasan gharib. Al Hafizh Abu Thohir said that the sanad hadith is hasan).

With the obedience of a wife, it will last and continue the harmonious relationship of both partners. This will be very helpful for the life of the world and the hereafter.

A devout wife is a wife who knows her religious duty to obey her husband and realizes wholeheartedly how important it is to obey her husband. The wife should always obey her husband on things that are useful and useful, to create a sense of security and affection in the family so that their life boat sails well and away from the waves that make it so great.

Instead, Islam has given a woman full rights over her husband, in which Islam commands her to respect his wife, fulfill her rights and create a life worthy of him so that his wife is obedient and in love with him.

The obligation to keep the husband that has been assigned by Islam to the wife is none other than the responsibility of the husband is so great, because the husband is the leader in his household and he is responsible for what he is responsible for. In addition, because the husband is strongly emphasized to have a far-sighted and insightful view, so that the husband can know things that are not known to the wife based on his experience and expertise in a particular field.

A wise wife is one who obeys her husband, carries out his orders, and listens and respects his opinions and counsel with care. If she sees that in her husband's opinion there is a mistake then she seeks to open a dialogue with her husband, then to mention the mistake gently and humbly. A calm and gentle attitude like magic that can soften a person's heart.

Obedience to the husband may be burdensome to a wife. How much the wife prepares herself to obey her husband and to be sincere in carrying it out then that is the reward she will get, because as the salaf scholars say, “That reason is directly proportional to the charity that a person does.” No doubt that the wife can reap many rewards other than obedience to the husband such as prayer, fasting, zakat, hajj and others, but the reward she gets is not perfect if she does not get the reward in obeying her husband, pleasing her heart and not doing anything she dislikes.

"Do you mind ?"

Nissa then put a sweet smile on her face.

Tama was relieved to hear Nissa's reply.

"Alright, when we get home later we immediately talk about this with Abi ya "Tama

Nissa nodded her head, agreeing to the proposal from her husband.

After driving long enough, the car driven by Tama has entered the boarding area.

The two rush to get off & say hello to the residents of the house who might have searched for both last night, but what Nissa did not know was that Tama had asked permission for ustadz Hamzah.

So the possibility of both being asked 'from where' seems very small.

Moreover, they are also a halal couple, so it is not a reason for both to get punished, as long as Nissa goes with her husband it is legitimate.

The two stepped into the house , confirming the existence of Ustadz Hamzah, it is true that the Hamzah endadz he was looking for was sitting on the back porch after performing duha

"Abi"

Talk to Nissa and Tama.

"Waalaikumsalam" answered

Nissa and Tama took a sitting position next to Ustadz Hamzah.

In this case Nissa is Tama's responsibility, so Tama will directly convey the desire of the mother in-law.

Tama says her desire to take Nissa out of her parents' purview, takes full responsibility for Nissa.

Hearing that Ustadz Hamzah looked happy, the friendly smile on his face looked so reassuring, although he really did not really know what he was feeling.

Losing ?, of course , but still as a woman precisely Nissa should follow what her husband said.

The Prophet said: “The most entitled to a woman is her husband. The most entitled to a man is his mother." (SR Tirmidhi)

Not only to Tama, Ustadz Hamzah also did not forget to give his daughter a message.

There is an interesting story related to the attitude of the son-in-law to the in-laws, which is when the aunt of Al Hushain bin Mihshan came to the Prophet Muhammad SAW. He then said: “Are you married?”

Aunt Al-Hushain replied, “Have.” “How (attitude) have you been with your husband?” ask the Prophet again. He replied, “I have never reduced his rights, except in cases I cannot afford.”

He then said, “Look where you are in your relationship with your husband, because your husband is your heaven and hell.” (SR Ahmed).

Ustadz Hamzah also explained

From this hadith about in-laws and daughters-in-law, indirectly the Muslims are ordered to always do good to the in-laws, which becomes a form of devotion to the husband.

Because, establishing a good relationship with in-laws can be one of the efforts to please the husband.

Related to the obedience of a wife to the husband, there is a hadith from Abu Hurairah RA that can also be a hadith about in-laws and daughters-in-law, namely:

قِيلَ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَيُّ النِّسَاءِ خَيْرٌ قَالَ الَّتِي تَسُرُّهُ إِذَا نَظَرَ وَتُطِيعُهُ إِذَا أَمَرَ وَلَا تُخَالِفُهُ فِي نَفْسِهَا وَمَالِهَا بِمَا يَكْرَهُ

Meaning: “Early asked the Prophet SAW, Who is the best woman?’ She replied “It is the most pleasant when seen by her husband, obey the husband if ordered, and do not stray the husband on himself and his property so as to make the husband hate.” (HR An-Nasai and Ahmad)

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