Parenting
The Little One and His Friends

The Little One and His Friends

As parents we can not determine with whom in childhood should be friends. But, at least still trying to direct the child to have a good friend from the attitude or speech he said.

Because the association will greatly affect the development of the baby in the future.

We can direct the little one to be friends with the child who can bring him or her towards kindness. For example, by supporting him when the baby is close to a friend who diligently goes to congregational prayer to the mosque every time he comes to five prayers. Follow nurture the friendship to remain intertwined until adulthood later.

Because usually the habit that is often done by his friend will spread by itself to our sons and daughters. Without giving him advice.

As parents, we need to know who our children are with. If caught his friend fighting bad, then parents must advise and try as much as possible so that children do not befriend him anymore. If necessary we find and direct the child to get a good friend and feel comfortable being friendly with him.

When children are close to friends whose daily life is only spent playing gadgets, then the little one will participate in it. Feel comfortable lingering in front of the phone screen.

Our job as parents, should as soon as possible remind him to try to stay away and avoid such friends.

In a hadith, Prophet SAW, reminded, “The feeling of a good friend and a bad friend is like a perfumed oil seller and a blacksmith. The perfumed oil seller may give you the perfumed oil or you may buy the perfumed oil from it, and otherwise you may still get the fragrant smell from it. As for the blacksmith, it could be (spark the fire) about your clothes and if not, you still get the unpleasant smell of smoke.” (HR Bukhari 5534 and Muslim 2628)

If we ignore and do not care about the child with any friends hanging out with him. It does not rule out the possibility of the scope of friendship of the baby is not controlled and becomes wild without control. Naudzubillahimindzalik.

In addition, the presence of both parents for the little one can also be used as a mother figure as well as being the best friend. Who can always be a loyal listener when the little one is excited to tell his excitement during school.

Or we can often invite him to discuss in every moment of opportunity especially can take advantage of the quality of time before bed. We can ask him to joke or play guessing with the baby.

When you find out your little one got bullied from his friend. As parents we are required to be able to direct so that the child does not continue to be a bully material in the form of verbal or physical. As much as possible we keep the child away from his friend who behaves like that. Not to experience deep trauma.

Giving physical touches as often as possible to ananda can be categorized as a step to show if we are worthy to be his best friend. Because the best friend is the figure and presence of the mother.

Trying to give understanding that choosing a good friend is a must in order to bring benefit to the future of the baby later.

Advise children to always be able to maintain their attitude and oral so as not to hurt their friends. And don't forget to be delivered anyway